Are You Ready for a Divorce?
Self-Reflection Questions to Ask Yourself

When the thoughts of divorce enter into one’s head, there usually three dilemmas that follow:

  1. “I’m not sure if it is the right decision.”
  2. “My spouse wants a divorce and I don’t think I do.” or
  3. “My marriage is not working and I think I need a divorce.”

If any of these three things ring true for you, please reflect on the following questions and decide what steps you need to take from there.

  • Are you truly ready for a divorce or are you just threatening it?
  • What is your intent in wanting a divorce?
  • What will the consequence of divorce be for you? For your spouse? For your family?
  • Are you prepared to handle the consequence of divorce for yourself, your spouse, and your family?
  • Have you made clear your concerns about the relationship? If so, in what way?
  • Do you and your spouse have clear expectations about the roles you each play in the relationship?
  • If there was a way to save the marriage, what would it be? What role would you have in that?
  • Would you really be happier without your partner?
  • What is the biggest fear in ending the marriage and how have you addressed that?
  • What have you done to try to fix the problems, so you didn’t get to this point?
  • Am I ready to handle the day-to-day details of living that my spouse managed?
  • Have you considered how a divorce will impact you financially, emotionally, as a co-parent, your community, your sense of well-being?
  • Have you reached out to a mental health provider or spiritual advisor for support?